Want to be in a committed relationship? Pick the socially-awkward type
I originally heard this on TWIS (This Week in Science) around Valentines Day. At this time I was studying human behavior in school and it caught my eye (or ear shall I say). I’m told the behaviorist school of thought was succeeded by that of cognition. Although this may be true, we definitely can’t dismiss behaviorism totally - we are still animals after all. I think Skinner would agree. I bet Kelly would have something to say on this too.
“The best “catches” in dating land may be the worst choices in the long-run, new research shows.
Popular people who monitor themselves carefully in social situations and thereby appear to be the most socially appropriate are often highly sought after as romantic partners, a study finds, but these people show less satisfaction and commitment in relationships than socially-awkward people.
By self-monitoring, people assess how their actions affect others and adjust to fit the appropriateness of the situation. They screen their words and behavior to suit the people around them.”
Check out the full article yourselves. Worth a read. Post your feedback in the comments - I’d love to hear what you have to say.
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